If we talking intelligence in dating here, we might as well address the other half of the equation.
What makes an intelligent man? Now, I have a feeling I'm about to get myself in trouble, but since I had no male volunteers to write this section, you must understand that I am only writing this from the perspective of an intelligent woman.
What is an intelligent man? Or rather the question may be what do I wish an intelligent man "be" like? And yes, there is a subtle difference between these two...
1. Although there are a lot of intelligent people in the world out there who have not had the privilege to be college-educated, my ideal intelligent man needs to have a college degree at the very least. This would ensure a shared educational experience at some level, and perhaps a more likely shared understanding of the world. Any degrees beyond college are a plus. Unlike women, men with extra letters after their names typically fare quite well in the dating world. In fact, I find it a little disgusting and obnoxious when male physicians flaunt their degrees online, "SFdoc93" or "hotMD"...Please, are you looking for a trophy wife or an intellectual equivalent? Oh, sorry, I think I just answered my own question.
2. Although some degree of social awkwardness is to be expected in intelligent men, please be able to open your mouth and have a conversation with me, and possibly with my friends or random people that does not involve the technicalities of a)your job, b)football or some other sports, or c)your computer or Iphone.
3. An intelligent man would know who he is. This is a lot harder than it may appear. For example, I met a guy today at an art show. We got to talking and I guessed on a hunch that he wrote poetry. He admitted it, but told me not to spread the news. Later, as we were looking at photography, he admired a photo of leaves with some flower petals on them and told me he couldn't buy that because women would think he was gay. This is a man who isn't comfortable with himself. He must portray an exterior to the world that is different than the core of his being. Women pick up on this. As for myself, I think a man who writes poetry, and one who dares to put up photographs of flowers despite what the world may think of him is a truly intelligent man. The other men out there, I refer to as "half-baked..."
4. An intelligent man is--and listen guys, this is the most important thing--able to appreciate an intelligent woman for all the qualities she brings to the table. In fact he is able to adore her, including her ability to take charge of a situation. Despite that, he is capable of picking up the phone and making dinner reservations somewhere special, or surprising her with a romantic weekend away. C'mon I've already showed you I can take care of myself and you, so now be a man and do something useful. No matter how confident and in control a woman is, every woman loves surprises.
Alright men and women, I'm sure I missed some things...anything to add to the list?
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You have a great definition of an intelligent women, however, your definition of an intelligent man is deficient. I do not see why these wouldn't apply to an intelligent man:
"Thoughtful about the world."
"Socially intelligent."
"Emotionally intelligent."
A person must be comfortable with themselves to be considered intelligent. If for every thought they have, they ask the question "what would [insert qualifier] think?", then they are not really themselves.
Also, I really wouldn't consider any woman who enjoys chivalry for the sake of chivalry to be intelligent. It does little but demean women.
Your definition of an intelligent man sounds more like a description of "a man who appreciates intelligent women" then an intelligent man.
No man/woman is intelligent without a set of principles which they live by (not just "like" to live by).
No man/woman is intelligent without taking truth seriously even in the smallest of things.
No man/woman is intelligent without being able to laugh at themselves from time to time.
No man/woman is intelligent without being able to learn from their mistakes and the world.
No man/woman is intelligent without being able to accept responsibility for their actions.
Any man/woman whose primary goal in life is self gratification is not intelligent.
and etc...
There are far too few intelligent people in the world.
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